K's health status

[Tink]

he's refusing "more pills" as he puts it. i can understand why but i'm with you, i think it might help.
meeting with an attorney tomorrow to see what his chances of getting Disability are.

[dandysmom]

Fingers crossed that will go well!

[Kazz]

Am I ot understanding something why need an attorney for disability? doesn't the Doctor just fill out the form and I would imagine open and shut case in K's case.....

[calismum]

Hope all goes well for you tomorrow.

xx

[Tink]

Originally Posted by Kazz

Am I ot understanding something why need an attorney for disability? doesn't the Doctor just fill out the form and I would imagine open and shut case in K's case.....

No it's a bit more complicated than that.
You don't have to have an attorney, it's a choice. It tends to expedite things and they can give you advice about filling out the paperwork correctly.
I won my disability without an attorney but the case I had with one is still in appeals. I was approved on the one I filed independently because I knew what to do this time around. It's actually a really complicated, slow process.
If you're lucky, you'll hear back in a few months. Or it can be like me and draw out for a few years. To get a hearing is a year and a half waiting list and cases in appeals are there for minimum of 24 months. There is a lot of paperwork and needing to prove to the government and even in K's case where it is physical they will still fight you if there's any possible chance of work you can do..they will consult with vocational specialists and have government hired doctors inspect you rather than your own. It's an exhausting process to be honest.
It also depends on where you live and how overwhelmed your local government offices are. Ours are pretty inundated trying to sort through applicants.

[dandysmom]

Tink's right; you have to jump thru hoops and go thru all sorts of paperwork and it can still a take years, tears and appeals just to get the system to work. Most people do need an attorney. In cases like this I wish we had your National Health service... it may have problems but I think it's better than what we have now, even though our right-wingers call it "socialized medicine" !

[Tink]

okay i just need to vent. this has been a prob the last few months and it's happening again and what the heck am i supposed to do?
if i'm supportive/interact with him, he pushes me away, rejects everything i say, shuts me down..which is kind of hurtful.
if i give him space, he feels abandoned and like i don't love him anymore.
i know he's angry and in denial and depressed but what do i do without going crazy myself?

[Kazz]

Is there a support group at the hospital....or whom the hospital could put you in touch with? I think you need outside help with something as life changing as this is.....honest. Even if K does not want to go you could go........

[Kazz]

And when you think about it the old adage "we hurt those who we love the most" is true... and why because we have the power to hurt and be hurt...It's true, and very sad.

When we are in a close relationship, we make ourselves very vulnerable. It's that trusting vulnerability that makes the relationship close. We depend so much on the other for emotional support, that even a small off comment can hurt us greatly.

I don't think it is always intentional or conscious, but because of the close emotional connection and tie, what we do that might not bother a friend as much or a stranger at all, can be devastating to a lover or someone to whom we are the closest in every area of our life.

And when you are ill or recovering from a serious illness you lash out sometimes because its "bloody hard" not to.

And you hate seeing people who you love suffering/upset because of your illness and then wham... the guilt kicks in and that is rapidly followed by anger...which sometimes focuses itself into anger at them for making you feel guilty and then "wham bam"

[Kazz]

Wow wrote that without thinking......a bit close to home maybe....