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It's refreshing to hear of other women who have decided for whatever reason not to have children. I am the same - I always knew I didn't want them. There is nothing wrong IMO in following a self chosen path. What does annoy me is professional people, eg. doctors who question your decisions - even when they were made years ago and it is none of their business anyway. That happened to me last week when I went for a gynae appointment and was questioned about my decision to be sterilised in the mid 1980's. What right had she to question me? Sorry, rant over! |
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How incredibly pushy and unnecessary that question was, Angie! None of her business WHY! |
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I surprised myself Eileen and didn't get cross until after I left. Mind you, she could have had her revenge anyway if I'd had a go at her!!! |
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great thread HK!! hmmmmmm human babies...... personally i like kids... but i couldn't eat a whole one!  sorry... one of my favourites... i couldn't resist!im sorry Elaine... children aren't satans spawn without help of the parents.. children will be children... its what they do... they are like kittens... testing/learningmaking mistakes....its the parents who dont keep them in line and set out boundaries that create children that are the spawn of satan...   that said it takes a special person to be a parent... selfless, patient, caring etc etc... the fact that a lot of kids are shockers is testament to the fact that a lot of parents shouldn't have been allowed to procreate... I didn't want children growing up... and was adamant that i didn't want them until i found out that we were unexpectedly expecting...after the initial shock... we were thrilled and then i miscarried...and then i HAD to have a baby....mind you... after she was born... i decided instantly that one was enough...dont get me wrong... I love our daughter and i wouldn't change her for anything... but i only had/have enough love/selflessness/patience/caring for one child... funny though i could have a dozen cats and still have enough of everything for a dozen more.. I have to say that i have enjoyed my daughter more as she has got older... we are great friends... and growing up people always commented on who well behaved she was...and i saw that when i was presented with situations where i saw her with her friends....If you ask her she would tell you that we were both strict with her... probably more so me than her father... |
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I always knew I wanted children & when we got married, we had 2 children quite soon afterwards. I would have liked a 3rd, but had a very traumatic birth with my 2nd child (sorry to sound dramatic) but it was quite a trauma for my husband & after that & thinking of my health (My uterus ruptured & I was quite ill) he really didn't want any more. Wouldn't want any more now. The girls are getting older & growwing up now. |
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i know exactly what you mean Angie... I think it comes down to the bad bed side manner that MOST doctors have.....in a similar vein one of the standard comments i get when doctors find out that i had a hysterectomy at age 26 because i had cancer is "thats a very radical and aggressive treatment for someone so young,... its not the way i would have treated it" to which i ALWAYS reply..."well im very happy to still be alive and not at all bothered by the aggressive nature of my surgery.. my daughter was 3 years old at the time i was diagnosed and I would have done anything to live" That always has them back peddling... |
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Given the alternatives Jo, an understandable decision. Glad you are still with us.  |
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Thanks Angie...it will be a milestone for me in July this year when Cait turns 21... whilst she's been an adult for a few years now.. symbolically 21 is the milestone i never thought i would reach...lol mind you there were times when i didn't think SHE would reach her next birthday ...if you know what i mean  |
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Never planned kids... was told that my chances of conceiving again after I had a life threatening eptopic pregnancy were very slim, then i go to the docs about 2 years later complainin of throwin up every time i ate dairy so could i have a blood test for food allergies, only to be told i wasnt lactose intolerant i was infact about 4 months pregnant!! (Still havin my period and hadnt got any bigger!!) even tho the rest of my pregnancy was difficult and i was in and out of hospital... I dont regret havin her... she is AMAZING! super intelligent, funny and beautiful! No more tho.... 1 is enough  would rather have a house full of cats than have anymore kids!! |
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Very interesting thread I always wanted children. I originally planned on 6  , but actually having the little darlings soon cured me of that idea. I didn't have a particular age in mind to start my family, but 23 felt 'right' to me. I would dearly have loved to have had a 3rd, but health reasons blew that one out of the water, and I can quite happily say that I am very content with my 2 girls. Yes they are hard work, and there are times I think, WHY???, but I could not imagine my life without them, and as they grow older and become young women, it is wonderful to share in their journeys. As a quote I one heard said, daughters are little girls who grow up to be your best friends |
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