In honesty Urchin has come on leaps and bounds.
I can actuallt touch him, although this means he has to bite and claw my hand- this is done in a playful way and doesn't break the skin ( or the biting doesn't!)
We often waken up with him lying between us or at my feet, at this point I know not to move quickly in case a get pronged.
We sometime have a couple of butteries in bed on a sunday with a coffee. Most of the cats, including Urchin have started begging ( in cat terms this means grabbing) for some. Urchin usually sits with Mr Tomsk in front of Mike and accepts his bit. We usually have 2 butteries each but in actual fact only end up eating one- Fluffy, Mr Tomsk, Sooty, Loki, Urchin, Pumkin and now Helga all line up for a taste. Helga is allowed to join in now because she has halved in weight and is a nice normal sized cat. I think really its us who should be cutting out the treats instead.