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I couldn't just switch off emotionally. I have had sex with people I have had feelings for but I couldn't just do it with any old tom dick or harry just for a bit of variety. |
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Hehehe, neither could I! Im sure some people can - but for me i have to know the person to a certain degree and certainly respect and like them a lot. Em |
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Mind you they do say variety is the spice of life  I will stick to different varieties of chocolate Milk, plain,dark lots to choose from |
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Wow, I could never share my partner! I am a one-man woman - I truly believe that having sex with someone other then your husband or boyfriend is cheating. I belive love and sex are definitely connected - in my life, I have only ever had sex with two men and I was in love with both of them at the time. Don't think I could have sex with someone I wasn't in love with. Nope. Couldn't do it. Can't understand it either, to be brutally honest. |
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can you say that you were in love with them the first time you had sex? |
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I get very emotionally involved and for me, sex and love are unseperable. When at artschool I had plenty of opportunity for sleeping around, but over the 3 years only had 4 boyfriends, and out of those only 3 I got very close to. I can say, hand on heart that 2 of those I loved very dearly. To the point that I still think about them 20 years on. The other was just a 'loving friend' who I still have a good friendship with. I have never (and don't think I could), had a one-night-stand. As said before, I do have admiration for those that are able to keep the 2 emotions apart in their own minds. I would love to have the courage to do so, but I don't think I'm of the right psyche to do so. Lets face it - I even ran away from the offer of a 3-some with my best friend and her 'squeeze' at when away at art college!!  |
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I get very emotionally involved and for me, sex and love are unseperable. When at artschool I had plenty of opportunity for sleeping around, but over the 3 years only had 4 boyfriends, and out of those only 3 I got very close to. I can say, hand on heart that 2 of those I loved very dearly. To the point that I still think about them 20 years on. The other was just a 'loving friend' who I still have a good friendship with. I have never (and don't think I could), had a one-night-stand. As said before, I do have admiration for those that are able to keep the 2 emotions apart in their own minds. I would love to have the courage to do so, but I don't think I'm of the right psyche to do so. Lets face it - I even ran away from the offer of a 3-some with my best friend and her 'squeeze' at when away at art college!! |
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Ooops!! How did I manage to post twice when I only pressed submit once  |
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Yola, I don't really think it's a matter of admiration or accomplishment for doing either (monogamy and non-monogamy). I admire people who manage their relationship(s) well, rather than which relationship model they follow. One of the best marriages I know of is completely closed, but so filled with love, communication and understanding it's touching every time  |
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For me, love and sex are as one. I have and never would have a one-night stand or cheat on my husband. I have only ever had sex with 2 men (one being my OH) and was in love with both. (not at the same time! lol). I accept we are all different; I cannot honestly feel admiration at all for those who chose an open marriage, but accept it is their choice. However, I cannot and never will understand it.  |
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