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To have or not have...Hello  I hope this isn't too personal of a question but I was just curious... Why did you decide to have or not have children? ______________________________________________ When we were first married, we kept getting asked "So when are you going to have kids?" Our "Never" response got met with odd stares. We do have children, they just happen to be furry with four legs!  My husband & I have chosen not to have human children. Just being a couple with our cats is enough for us  We were meant to take care of cats & we couldn't be happier  When I was young, I was not one of those girls who dreamed of having babies when I grew up. I always felt a close connection to cats. I knew I wouldn't have children since I was very young. Not everyone was meant for children. My husband & I will live our life saving as many cats as we can  Our lives are solely devoted to our cats 
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I'm not in a relationship, simple as that  (Even if I was I wouldn't want to have children) |
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I hate kids, never liked them, never liked myself much as a kid either. Satans spawn, thats what they are  |
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I was adamant for many, many years that I didn't want children. Then something clicked and I thought . . . 'why not'. Only it wasn't as simple as that. Nothing happened. Finally after fertility treatment (not IVF), I did conceive only for it to be an ectopic pregnancy  I was told the likelihood of children was next to zero after all the ops and messing about.It left me stuggling to look at women pushing prams . . . I really found it difficult. But then, well, it just happened! Twice  We're probably older than we should be with small children and it IS a struggle to keep up with them, but they are my sanity and where all my love is focused. I still obviously love my cats to bits but my attachment to them has become a lot less obsessive - I really did treat them like surrogate babies; they were filling an emotional void in me. |
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Sorry, was editing post and it accidentally got posted...:blush: |
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Loads of reasons. 1st marriage was a disaster from around end of 1st year so was not going to bring children to that. Next relationship OH had a vasectomy and we discussed reversal, options etc but unfortunately he died before we made a final decision. I now have two adult step children and have probably missed the boat age wise now. But my OH and I are real soulmates. However, I have never really felt the omg I must have a child, nor do I feel I am missing out on some essential part of life. I have two wonderful young nieces who I can send home any time I've had enough and like DM I feel I'd be a bit of a 'victorian' parent' |
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I too knew from an early age that marriage and children wasn't for me. I'm not used to being around them, I would have been a terrible disciplinarian, and the thought of the terrible twos and the rebellious teen years that I've seen in friends kids reassured me that it was the right decision for me. Not everyone is cut out to be a mother. Good question; actually no one has ever asked me that! |
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Thank you to those who responded to this thread  |
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