tigger is incontinent *emotional vent*

Mags · 07-01-2009, 04:32 PM

Tink, we have 'watched' you give your utmost love and comfort to Tigger in the months you have had him. You have fought to encourage and keep him strong but I fear the time has now come when he is trying to tell you "Thank you Mom but I've had enough". It's not in a cat's nature to be dirty and he has now reached the stage where he is unable to look after himself and his quality of life is diminishing.

Stay strong Tink, let the tears flow ..... you know in your mind that you must do this last act out of love for him. I think I can speak for all of us here when I say we have admired what you do for all of your animals......your love for them all shines through your words.

Love and big hugs to you... xxx

Tink · 07-01-2009, 08:55 PM

Thank you all for your kind words.
Well, we are set for Saturday at 10:30 am. I called around and found a place that I like better than his regular vet that gives pre sedation to relax him and I think I'm going to go with that one since he hates the vet so much.
However, I left a message at the after hours (ER) clinic just in case. You see, I'm trying to plan around OH's work schedule because I can't drive and I want to have a backup plan in case Saturday is too long of a wait for him. I'm waiting on a call back to see if they ever do that or not. The reason I'm saying this is he vomited this morning and I'm preparing in case he really needs to go to the bridge before Saturday.
Sounding robotlike again, aren't I? I think I go into a strange clinical place when I'm hurting. Either that or I'm not human. Well, it is only Wednesday so time will tell I suppose how I begin to handle this.
Thank you all again for your support I will keep you updated as to his condition and if plans change for him to cross the bridge. I suspect I'll need all of your support. I love you all, thank you for letting me talk to you about all of this.
Tink

Jasmine · 07-01-2009, 09:05 PM

It is so sad when this happens because there is very little that can be done.

Seven years ago my cat Jasmine became incontinent at the age of 11 without any warning and no other illness - we managed to keep her with us for 6 months with the aid of tablets from the vet but realised eventually that the best thing for her was to be PTS.

Best wishes

meep · 07-01-2009, 10:50 PM

I can't say more than anyon else, and there have been some very wise words spoken, but at such an upsetting time, don't worry about your emotional reaction. As Yola has said, crying isn't the only way to grieve.

And Tink, Tigger has had the most wonderful place to be looked after in his final months by the most wonderful mum, and I'm sure he loves you for it very much. You have done everything you could for him, and more than most people would, so be comforted by that thought.

Stay strong x x

dandysmom · 07-01-2009, 11:30 PM

I can't put it any better that what's just been said. Thinking of you and Tigger with love; you've been the very best mom he could have had .......

Natalie · 07-01-2009, 11:42 PM

Such wonderful words of advice and comfort come before me.

Kist wanted to send you my love and prayers at this very difficult time.

Tigger is wonderful and you have been a perfect mom to him.

Big hugs xxx

Tina · 08-01-2009, 01:42 AM

So sorry you're having to go through this Tink. I can't say anymore than what everyone else has said, but agree that you are doing (as you always have done) what is best for Tigger. He will always be thankful that he had YOU to keep his spirits up and love him during his illness.

farthing · 08-01-2009, 09:40 PM

So sorry that you are having to make this decision, but it is one done out of love.

Tink · 08-01-2009, 11:03 PM

Thank you.
We are considering going to the after hours clinic tonight. Not definite but it is a good possibility we will be putting him down sooner.
I'm getting very depressed and falling behind on my chores and just want to sleep and not deal with anything.
I will keep posted...

dandysmom · 08-01-2009, 11:27 PM

Whatever you'll decide is what is best for dear Tigger. Of course you're depressed; this is a very sad and stressful time for you, and will be for a while. Don't worry about the chores, they'll wait; do the essential and the rest will be there when you're feeling a bit better. Wish I could be there with you, all I can say is that this is the last kindness you can do for him, although it is so, so hard...be strong, Tink, (((hugs)))

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