Steven 4/08/1988-2/12/88

yola · 02-12-2005, 09:45 AM

Jac, DM I'm so sorry to read of your respective losses. Sometimes it just helps to talk/write/shout about it until the pain subsides.

The loss of a child is most awful and guilt-ridden and still quite taboo as people really are at a loss as to what to say.

I have experienced this indirectly only but I know 2 people who have lost a boy during childbirth, one was someone very close to me.

Jac - although not religious, I do believe that our departed loved ones are looking after each other and are also casting a watchful glance over us at times.

Love to you both

dinahsmum · 02-12-2005, 09:54 AM

Yola, You're right about the guilt thing. It's crazy isn't it?

Fran · 02-12-2005, 10:16 AM

Thinking of you today Jac x x {{{Hugs to you}}}

Jac · 02-12-2005, 11:06 AM

Thank you all so very much. The guilt thing is horrific. I kept thinking stuff if only I had woken him to feed him. (I dont believe in wakeing a baby to tell it it's time to feed) but if I had that day..... or if only I hadnt gone to my mums, he wouldnt have been in the pram. all sorts of things.

It's ok DH I know exactly what your talking about I lost twins as well. One was in my falopian (sp) tube and the other I misscaried. As for looking at "unworthy" mothers or pregnant people, well Ive been there too. How come you can carry that baby and I couldnt?
If I hadnt lost Steven I wouldn't have had Darryle, like you I couldnt be with out him or Ceilidh.
Thank you all for your kind words and yes it has helped to talk about it.

PK thanks for keeping me company last night or should I say this morning. We seem to be making a habit of it.

Moli · 02-12-2005, 11:41 AM

Thinking of you today Jac's...Big "HUG"..............

Mags · 02-12-2005, 02:42 PM

Jac I am so sorry to hear about your losses, all in such a short space of time. You must be one courageous lady to get through all that. To lose a child must be the most heartbreaking experience you can go through as nothing can prepare you for it.
You pour your heart out if you feel like it Jac, it will help you get through the day. Thinking of you and sending you {{{{{{big hugs}}}}}} Jac. xx

RIP Steven xx

yola · 02-12-2005, 04:28 PM

I know what you mean about looking at other women etc. I was diagnosed infertile, took fertility drugs, got pregnant, had ectopic pregnancy and half of my 'kit' removed. I was convinced that a baby would never happen after that. It took several years to really get over the resulting depression, but I couldn't look at a happy family or a kiddie in a pushchair without welling up.

And then - when I'd reconciled myself to a childless future; I fell pregnant with Dominik. I can't tell you how worried I was during that pregnancy but all was OK.

Anyway - I would love another, but I have a very strong feeling that I should be grateful with what I've been given with my little miracle boy and not push my luck.

Hope you don't mind this mini outpouring . . . thanks

and Jac, I'm thinking of you all day today ((((hugs))))

Donna · 02-12-2005, 07:32 PM

Thinking of you today x

Kim · 03-12-2005, 09:18 PM

{{{Hugs}}} to you Jac. I have lost both parents, my mum tragically and it hurts like hell. To lose a child must be the hardest thing to ever comes to terms with. You have gone through such a tough time, don't be hard on yourself, you still need to grieve for your losses. Thinking of you....

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