Mustard is not well.

farthing · 16-12-2008, 10:11 PM

We got Mustard's toxo results back and it looks like this amy have been the problem. It is one of these tests which looks at antibodies, so they can only say it seems likely to be the cause. Anyway, the vet thinks because we caught it so quickly he won't suffer from any long term damage, which is good news. He will finish his course of treatment and then go back in for another blood test to check he is clear and for then on he should have a natural immunity. At least we know, pretty, much what caused it and it wasn't a stroke, so it seems like it is good news.
Thanks for the good wishes everybody.

Mags · 16-12-2008, 10:18 PM

That's good news Farthing, thanks for updating us...

I do hope there has been some improvement with Mike's Dad too......

farthing · 16-12-2008, 10:29 PM

We are having a really stressful time with Mike's dad. He had a heart attack 2 weeks ago, refused all treatments to help recover. 4 days later he had to be shocked back into rhythm 7 times between 1am and 7 am. Everybody was called out to the hospital in the middle of the night. We were called out again a couple of nights later, but his heart was sorting itself out so he didn't need any shocks. Finally he was persuaded to get an angioplast and had a stent put in. He in now on medication, but still very much at risk of going into ventricular fibrillation. The doctors want to give him an internal defibrillator before he goes home, because once home he will die if he has another episode, and the risk is high.
We spent the whole afternoon trying to persuade him to take the op, but he refused- why, not because he is scared, but because he doesn't want to be in a communal ward. He has finally agreed to it, but to be honest I'm fed up of him wasting people's time, as well as the doctors time. I personally am a bit sensitive as I had to watch my dad die at the age of 52, with a brain tumour. He would have gone through anything to live and it angers me that Mike's father will give up like this.

Mags · 16-12-2008, 10:39 PM

Oh dear, sorry you've been having such a worrying time lately..

I'm pleased to hear he has now agreed to having the op........ I would sooner choose the communal ward than risk my life if it were me.

Fingers crossed that all goes well for him with the op and you can start living a less stressful life ......take care (((hugs)))

dandysmom · 16-12-2008, 10:42 PM

Oh farthing, how distressing for Mike and you. Do you think it might be that he is really scared of the operation but thinks it's not macho to admit it and is using the communal ward as an excuse? Not logical, of course, but fear does make people do odd things..... I do hope you and the doctors can talk some sense into him. Sorry to hear of the sad loss of your Dad. That must have been very hard for you.

farthing · 16-12-2008, 10:47 PM

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Originally Posted by dandysmom

Oh farthing, how distressing for Mike and you. Do you think it might be that he is really scared of the operation but thinks it's not macho to admit it and is using the communal ward as an excuse? Not logical, of course, but fear does make people do odd things..... I do hope you and the doctors can talk some sense into him. Sorry to hear of the sad loss of your Dad. That must have been very hard for you.

The operation to put in the defibrillator, is a smaller op than the angioplast, with a much lower risk. It will take about an hour under a local. After the angioplast, he admitted he had been silly to worry about it, so I would hope it has shown him how simple these procedures can be.
I was a tough time losing my dad, but we got a chance to say goodbye, and I am so proud of him, as he thought of us and hid his pain to the very end.

yola · 16-12-2008, 11:05 PM

Farthing, I can understand your resentment, but I think your partner's father has his own demons that are making decisions difficult for him and he's making excuses to mask the fact.

I hope he makes the right choices to help prolong his life and ensure those who love him have the chance to demonstrate it to him. I know it's difficult, but for his sake try and temper your feelings until he's well enough for you to discuss them with him and explain to him then why you have found this all so hard to deal with.

farthing · 16-12-2008, 11:20 PM

Thanks Yola, but I won't be letting him know how I feel.
I tried to make him see today, how his decisions will affect his family, it is now up to him. I will treat him no differently to before, but had to get things off my chest somewhere.
I admit it has affected my view of him though and I won't be pushing him anymore to save himself.

dandysmom · 16-12-2008, 11:24 PM

It's good to have a safe place to vent, and you know we understand.....(((hugs)))

angieh · 17-12-2008, 12:45 PM

So sorry farthing - that your Mike's dad is causing everyone so much stress - sounds as if he could be a stubborn selfish b*****. Sorry, probably said what you feel by the sound of it.

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