Could you share your husband?

CathyW · 05-05-2006, 09:02 PM

no way could i share my husband.

EmmaG · 05-05-2006, 09:18 PM

I could share mine, like when he doesn't tell me where he is and that he is ok!!! lol

seriously, I am not sure that I could, I use to be a very jealous person but I just don't seem to be anymore (after being with somebody for over 14 years has for me, relaxed me totally in that way

) but I think if it came down to it the jealousy would rear it's head again, I suppose one reason I am so relaxed is because I know he would never do anything with anybody else.

I know we could never have an open relationship as he would never be happy about me having sex with somebody else.

MzTrouble · 06-05-2006, 12:39 PM

I'm afraid I don't really understand the whole open relationship thing

! I really feel that if you want to be with someone, and you want to comitt to them, then you should be with them alone. And even just leaving the whole belief thing alone, I would be extremely worried about STDs. Even when using a condom, you are still at risk of catching an STD and for me, the risk (both for me and my OH) would be too high.

Obviously, this is just my opinion and its no accusation towards anyone else, just how I feel.

Jac · 06-05-2006, 04:53 PM

This is not the kind of discussion I'm used to on CP and quite honestly in my oppinion should be kept for an over 18 forum. CP has two under 16 members that I know of (there could be more). Lets keep it an open un sex happy place. (obviously my oppinion)

Az · 06-05-2006, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Jac

This is not the kind of discussion I'm used to on CP and quite honestly in my oppinion should be kept for an over 18 forum. CP has two under 16 members that I know of (there could be more). Lets keep it an open un sex happy place. (obviously my oppinion)

This thread is ok - it doesnt break any rules - if it contained explicit pictures or language, that would be something else, but this is harmless discussion.

It's not anything that couldn't be read in a daily newspaper or seen on daytime TV. There is nothing inherently offensive about a sensible discussion concerning sex & relationships, and this one appears to be being conducted in a sensible way.

People don't have to be interested in the same topics or indeed get involved in every single thread, if you don't like a particular topic, stay off it.

Bear in mind anyone under the age of 16 must get their parents permission to view Catpages, and it is the parents duty to decide which topics they can or can't read. This thread is actually very mild to what you would find on many teen sites that go into far more graphic detail (and which we prob wouldn't allow).

In future if anyone has issues about someone elses thread please use the report post icon and don't take it upon yourself to dicate what should and shouldn't be discussed here (that's admins job).

If anyone has any further issues about this they should PM me, rather than continuing to disrupt this thread.

Bengal Babe · 08-05-2006, 01:41 PM

Would I share my Hub -

ERRR NO - because I might get used to have a happy time with my cats - just me and them - and who ever borrowed hubs might send him back -

so I'll leave him where he is -

No I am most certainly a one guy girl - probably old fashioned but hey

Kim · 08-05-2006, 07:33 PM

Nothing wrong with being old fashioned!

CathyW · 08-05-2006, 08:57 PM

i my mind if your with your hubby/partner and your happy with them you shouldnt feel the need to sleep with anyone else. if u want to sleep with someone else (even with their know how) u cant be that so *in love n happy* ok yes im old fasioned like that. and if anyone made a play for him id basically tear their head off

Bengal Babe · 08-05-2006, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by boys mum

ok yes im old fasioned like that. and if anyone made a play for him id basically tear their head off

Good for you girl - don't like girls that go for other women's men - I would never do that - not that sort of girl

EH - so it's quite fashionable to be old fashioned - glad there are still some decent girls about

Snoof · 08-05-2006, 10:20 PM

Now, now, there's no need to start implying everyone who doesn't agree with you is indecent. For us, sex and love are simply two different concepts. How in love I am with Matt has nothing to do with sex - for me.

I don't recall anyone implying that monogamy is somehow inferior, so I don't see why people are getting defensive about it. To my mind, people should be in relationships that suit their personalities, desires and needs. If you have that, then I'm honestly happy for you. Like Kim said - nothing wrong with being "old-fashioned", although I wouldn't call monogamy old-fashioned myself. I just don't see why it necessarily follows that anything else does have something wrong with it.

I can't speak for anyone else, but Matt and I are happy and well-adjusted people in a mutually respectful relationship. We're partners, we love each other, we're in love with each other. Certain dynamics are just different from the norm. My son is happy, healthy and well-cared-for. He's not being exposed to anything indecent.

If you don't like the idea of an open relationship, then what on earth's wrong with just not having one? Why must there always be that animosity involved, whenever someone deviates from what you want? I don't look down on monogamous people - why would I? What, exactly, is the point?

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