Annoyed with daughters friend's

[kado]

Its my daughters 13th birthday on the 21st of February. At first she wanted a party in the villiage hall but she would have too invite at least 40 people. Then it was the pub but they dont like doing buffets. Then pictures,bowling or swimming. Nobody wants to come. She was supposed to go out last saturday with a friend who cancelled it was changed till this saturday thats being cancelled.
She is such a sensitive girl and realy gets upset. She also has an anger problem which she is doing brillianlty at controlling. Since she went back too school after christmas she has being bullied about her hair and me. She's come home in tears and not wanted to go back too school. The school did suspend the bully but he is now back. I think she will be more upset on the day when she dosent get cards of her friends as they are off next week and they all will forget. I just hope the day goes all right for her and i will try my best and spoil her rotten.

Sorry i just wanted to get it off my chest
jane

[alexgirl73]

Jane, I so know where you are coming from on this. I have had probnlems like this in the past concerning my youngest daughters birthday and her similar problems. I even one year had to go knocking on neighbours doors and asking if their kids could come (bearing in mind we had only been in the street 4 months and knew no one), as none of her friends had bothered turning up . Are there no family members that you could base the party round, or one special friend that wont let her down? ((hugs)) for you both, as it is so upsetting I know xxx

[Kay]

How upsetting for her and you.

I agree with Alex, try and base a party around family and make a extra fuss of her. It is hard to say that she doesn't need friends that let her down like that but she doesn't. Can you have a word with her friends parents and see if there is something you can do between you all? Worth a try.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

[kado]

No family members as such. I am the youngest in my family and my nieces are only 11yrs younger than me i havent even seen my great nephew who is nearly 2 yet. I think its to do with my health issues that was in the past. I want even told when one of my neices got married. All the children around here are all her sister age as well. The special friend is the one she was supposed to be going out with this saturday.

[dandysmom]

I'm so sorry; the teen years can be hellish when you're not in the popular group. No suggestions really; could you arrange a special outing with her for just the two of you, peraps?

[kado]

In her first year at senior school she had to change school because she was being bullied by the friends she had known all her life. She lasted 42 days at her first school. She has lost her mobile phone somewhere in the house so i am going to get her a new one so i am going to take her with us too pick it out. going to treat her dinner out in town and as many pretzals as she wants there her favourite. She loves anything to do with shopping escpecially handbags, shoes, clothes i cant pick her clothes for her she hates that already

[dandysmom]

Sounds like a good idea to me; it goes well.

[Kazz]

Thats horrible how about a family bowling night out with you your OH etc. Then out for Pizza....

[kado]

We will probaly have a take-a-way and a girl night on the saturday. Just spoke to a neighbour who make realy good cakes and she going to make her one which is a suprise for her. Even though she is going to be 13 she loves build a bear might get her one.

[calismum]

Really difficult for you both. I think your idea about making it a special pampering day for her is good. Hope it works out ok for her. Sorry can't offer any real advice, just ((hug)) for you both.